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Making Decisions When You Feel Stuck
“It is not about making a good or bad decision. It is also not about making the right decision. We never know how our lives would have turned out if we had made a different decision. It simply makes it the decision you need to take at that very moment to be congruent with who you are and what you want in life.”
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Chapter 8 – A focus on Health, Hope & Faith
February 2016 I. am. struggling. It’s hard to explain what it feels like to exist without waking. Weeks, months, maybe even a year, pass and I feel as if I’ve never truly been present. A heavy cloud sits over my brain, smothering thought, clarity, and focus. I try to sit with my thoughts, focusing on my breathing. I deploy affirmations like tools in a futile attempt to calm my mind, to grab onto something real. But the thoughts flitter away like dandelions in the breeze. I can’t hold them. I can’t make sense of them. The familiar spiral begins as the month edges toward my period. Anxiety, panic, and dread…
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The Job That Lit Me Up – When Passion And Purpose Collide
Career alignment isn’t about perfection, it’s about direction. When your work aligns with your values, your energy shifts. You stop trudging through your days and start moving with purpose. Because the truth is, your career doesn’t just pay the bills. It shapes your days, your energy, your identity. When it aligns with your passion and your purpose, it can ignite something inside you that you didn’t even know was waiting. And trust me: once you feel that fire, you’ll never want to go back.
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Mental Health Awareness: What I Wish You Understood About Depression
Ever shared your pain and felt judged instead of supported? This raw reflection on depression, loneliness, and misunderstanding reveals what many people battling mental health wish their friends and family knew ,and how you can truly help.
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Rhodes Memorial
There’s something about standing between these enormous columns and looking out over Cape Town that makes you stop for a moment. The stone, the symmetry, the history.
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Healing the trauma of childhood sexual abuse
Healing from childhood sexual abuse is not a straight line. It’s not a checklist or a timeline you can pin on your wall and tick off as you go. For many of us, it takes decades, if not a lifetime to unravel the mess that trauma left behind. The abuse may be in the past, but the echoes live on. What’s often harder to shake than the memories are the behaviours we learnt during the trauma. Survival mechanisms. Coping patterns. The way we dissociate, people-please, freeze under pressure, or struggle to trust. Especially when the abuse went on for a long time, those behaviours can feel like part of who…
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Chapter 7 – Heartbreak, Healing, and Hidden Battles
February brought therapy sessions heavy with discussions of my mother and brother. I tried to shield my anxiety from my boyfriend, but old memories crept back like flash floods, and I found myself unravelling in private moments. Eventually, I shared extracts from my diary, hoping he might understand the layers of my behavior and the scars I carried. By March, our five-year anniversary loomed. I tried to read him, gauge the chance of a proposal. Things felt better between us after some emotional restructuring in my life – I’d let go of the weight of Nick, reorganized my contract at work, and found more joy in our interactions. Still, he…
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Living with Anxiety: What Helped Me Find Peace
Anxiety once ruled my world. The spirals, the insomnia, the constant knot in my stomach. I know the feeling of drowning in a sea of thoughts. But I'm here to say: it gets better. Here's what helped me manage anxiety when it felt like nothing would.
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Boulders Beach, Cape Town
Boulders Beach: Where the Sand is Soft and the Locals Waddle Tucked away just outside Simon’s Town, Boulders Beach is where powdery white sand, turquoise water, and giant granite rocks meet… penguins. Yes. Actual penguins. Hundreds of them. And they’ve claimed the place as their own.
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Putting things into perspective
I went to visit Cart Horse this morning to drop off some books, and while reversing inside to offload, I ended up swiping the right side of my car on the tow bar of the Cart Horse HorseBox. (That thing is as strong as an Ox so it’s fine) To my surprise, I actually felt like laughing when I saw what I had done. The dent was a LOT worse than I initially thought but it was ok… I have been feeling like a bitch from hell for the last few days… (this time of the month always brings out demon Andi) I am on the pill but I still…
